Summer: carefree days, sunshine, and finally getting off the school and extracurricular activity treadmill. However, as much as many kids and families are excited to get out of the routine, without the predictability of the school year, many struggle with the uncertainty that comes from a lack of structure. 

Parents may notice changes in mood, increased irritability, or avoidance behaviours (both in themselves and in their kids!). Some kids experience anxiety about camps, social pressures, or being away from home. Others feel disconnected without the social support that school provides. If a child struggles with anxiety, ADHD, or sensory sensitivities, the lack of structure can intensify their symptoms. 

For parents, the anxiety may come from the pressure to “make summer count.” There’s a cultural pressure to create memories, plan enriching experiences, and keep kids entertained, all while balancing work, finances, and responsibilities. Attempting to reach these unrealistic standards can leave parents feeling frustrated and resentful and rob them of their enjoyment of the summer.

So what can you do?

• Create a simple routine around meeting basic needs: A consistent wake-up and bed time, regular meals, and predictable transitions help everyone feel secure.
• Set realistic expectations: Summer doesn’t need to be perfect — it just needs to feel safe and steady. This means embracing “lazy days” or not getting all the chores done, all of the time.
• Feel the feels: Talk to your child about how they’re feeling and help them name their emotions. Sometimes sharing how you feel or recalling how you felt when as a kid can help normalize that big feelings are ok.
• Reach out for support: Therapy can be a helpful space for parents who want to learn coping skills and set intentions, and for kids who are struggling to manage their feelings (with the benefit of creating routine, productivity and focus during part of the summer!).

Anxiety doesn’t take a vacation — but with awareness, structure, and support, summer can still be a season of growth and connection (and fun).