Let’s start at the beginning. Let’s talk about what therapy isn’t. Therapy is NOT what you see in the movies. There is a couch…but you don’t have to lie on it. There are hard questions…but you don’t have to interpret inkblots, and it is not judgemental or scary, with NO bearded, bespeckled man, um-humming while you share your inner-most thoughts.
In our practice, it is our priority to create a comfortable, safe and welcoming environment where you can safely come to share emotional or personal problems that have been impacting your ability to live the life you want. Quite likely, you have tried working on your struggles through reading books, google searching or listening to wellness podcasts.
Although all good, those resources are not helping you feel better. Simply put, you feel stuck.
You know that your quality of life has been slowly deteriorating due to anxiety, or depression, or just an overall feeling of overwhelm. You have friends and family, but you have tried to talk about your issues, and although they are compassionate, you are just not figuring it out. Or maybe you are afraid to burden them. You know everyone is busy these days. It just seems too needy to share your struggles that you assume everyone goes through.
There are many times in life that we need or want to bring a professional into the mix. Sometimes it is because we can’t fix it on our own, or we have tried, and we simply aren’t getting the results we want. Think about it for a second. You started to build your deck, but soon realized you were wasting time and money on supplies because you were making mistakes. So, you called a carpenter. You tried to do your taxes yourself last year, but then you were dinged with a huge tax bill. So, you called an accountant this year. Remember that time you dyed your own hair? Or tried to fix your own car? You get it. Countless times in your life you have decided to call in a professional, ultimately to save yourself time, money and most-importantly stress.
Can you buy peace of mind when you pay a professional for home improvement, accounting, or hairdressing? ABSOLUTELY. You invest in your home, your financial security, your car and your hair, and eventually walk away feeling good and secure that you made the right decision with this investment. Therapy is no different. Just because we do not offer something you see, feel or hold in your hands, doesn’t mean that therapy isn’t a good investment and you can easily DIY it.
So let’s end at the end. Let’s talk about what therapy is. Therapy is an investment in yourself.
Yes, it costs money, yes, it takes time, yes, it pushes you to think about your issues differently, to feel uncomfortable at times and to challenge you to move toward growth and solutions. The most amazing thing about therapy is that it actually does end with tangibles, but not those that you hold in your hands. The tangibles that therapy offers are many. Feeling like that chronic problem is gone, or at the very least managed. Feeling lighter and more energized. Being present in your life; knowing that stress exists and will rear its head on a daily basis, but at the same time being able to handle it, while also enjoying the people and activities in life that are important to you, because it does not dominate your every waking moment. Finally, therapy gives you the opportunity to create a mental and emotional health toolbox that you can open up any time you need it. You learn skills for emotional management, identify your strengths and abilities and also know that you can come back to therapy any time you need to, just to tune up those tools and reset yourself.
There are many times in our lives when therapy could be of assistance. Any time you are in transition, therapy can help with coping, managing emotions and ultimately acceptance of your situation.