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Day Ten – Pressing The Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Nobody Is Perfect.  End. Of. Story.   So while you’re at it, abandon perfectionism.  Be kind to yourself and your family. The house will be messy, people will have to be convinced to bathe, you will eat junk, those long-standing house jobs will not get completed as quickly as you envisioned, if not at all.  That’s alright. Go back to the values. I can safely guess that NOBODY came up with “Do All The Things” as their top

Day Nine – Pressing the Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Recognize that this is hard. These days may seem long.  Making all the lists in the world does not help the work get done, the structure implemented and the values applied.  Some days will just suck.   Moods, loneliness even when amongst the family, loss or reduction of connections with peers, sports, teachers, co-workers will take its toll.  Recognize this and take a break. Pyjama days, Netflix marathons or extra screen time will be necessary. And that is

Day Six – Moving From the Me to We

Team Building:  Your family is a “We”.  End of story. Even when you disagree, you fight, are hurt or overwhelmed, your family has your back.  Talk about how each family member likes and needs to be supported. To borrow from John Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, learn the ways each member of your family wants and needs to feel appreciated and loved.   Words of affirmation: showing love through how you speak, using words of encouragement, gratitude, positive

Day Five – Assessing Your Communication Strategies: Aim To Cultivate Understanding

Day Five Think about how your family communicates.  Do you listen to respond, or do you listen to really listen? Think about it.  Learning how to be a good listener means shutting your mouth.  Enough said. Try it. Interrupters unite! I come from a long line of interrupters.  If you need a “talking stick” (or hockey puck, stuffed animal, etc), get one! Whoever holds the speaking object has the floor.   Next, think about how you show others

Day Four – Bumps in the Road: Applying Values and Family Rules to Your Day to Day.  

This is the hard part.  Start by acknowledging that NOBODY is perfect.  Parents will screw up, and kids will screw up. When we are hurt, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, we are ripe for screw-ups.  Think about this (and teach your kids to as well). When you are feeling like you are “losing it”, ask yourself these HALT questions:  Am I Hungry Am I Angry Am I Lonely Am I Tired I also