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What is Postpartum Rage?

You’ve made it home with your new babe. You’re adjusting to the lifestyle changes and working through the hormones and the new everyday intensity that come along with postpartum life. You’ve possibly heard of “Postpartum Depression”, “Baby Blues” and “Postpartum Anxiety”. The trouble is, none of these searches online or discussions with your friends and loved ones fit the bill of what you are experiencing.  Maybe you’re feeling tired, a little sad, and worried about your new

Day Ten – Pressing The Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Nobody Is Perfect.  End. Of. Story.   So while you’re at it, abandon perfectionism.  Be kind to yourself and your family. The house will be messy, people will have to be convinced to bathe, you will eat junk, those long-standing house jobs will not get completed as quickly as you envisioned, if not at all.  That’s alright. Go back to the values. I can safely guess that NOBODY came up with “Do All The Things” as their top

Day Nine – Pressing the Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Recognize that this is hard. These days may seem long.  Making all the lists in the world does not help the work get done, the structure implemented and the values applied.  Some days will just suck.   Moods, loneliness even when amongst the family, loss or reduction of connections with peers, sports, teachers, co-workers will take its toll.  Recognize this and take a break. Pyjama days, Netflix marathons or extra screen time will be necessary. And that is

Day Six – Moving From the Me to We

Team Building:  Your family is a “We”.  End of story. Even when you disagree, you fight, are hurt or overwhelmed, your family has your back.  Talk about how each family member likes and needs to be supported. To borrow from John Chapman’s The Five Love Languages, learn the ways each member of your family wants and needs to feel appreciated and loved.   Words of affirmation: showing love through how you speak, using words of encouragement, gratitude, positive

Day Five – Assessing Your Communication Strategies: Aim To Cultivate Understanding

Day Five Think about how your family communicates.  Do you listen to respond, or do you listen to really listen? Think about it.  Learning how to be a good listener means shutting your mouth.  Enough said. Try it. Interrupters unite! I come from a long line of interrupters.  If you need a “talking stick” (or hockey puck, stuffed animal, etc), get one! Whoever holds the speaking object has the floor.   Next, think about how you show others

Day Four – Bumps in the Road: Applying Values and Family Rules to Your Day to Day.  

This is the hard part.  Start by acknowledging that NOBODY is perfect.  Parents will screw up, and kids will screw up. When we are hurt, angry, frustrated, overwhelmed, we are ripe for screw-ups.  Think about this (and teach your kids to as well). When you are feeling like you are “losing it”, ask yourself these HALT questions:  Am I Hungry Am I Angry Am I Lonely Am I Tired I also

Day Two – Pressing the Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Day Two Take some time to think about the vision you have for your family.  Think back to when you looked at your sweet, delicate infants for the first time.  I am sure you had dreams for your babies from day one. You jumped ahead to the distant future, picturing them as an astronaut, a physician or a judge.  However, once reality kicked in, you knew that you needed to examine your family values and think about how you

Pressing the Re-Set Button on Your Family Life During Social Isolation

Day One So here we are, settling into Covid Family Life.  This is a time marked with uncertainty as to where this is going, and for how long.  Most of us have experienced the roller coaster of emotions associated with this experience.  From shock, to sadness, depression, anxiety and back through again. Hopefully, you are moving into accepting this situation for what it is today, and are now thinking about how you are wanting to travel through it as